[redbonec]

Well,,,

thank you all for replying. I think I am realizing these last couple weeks I just need to accept the fact that we are coming into a new era in this house and that sometimes it may take many tries for discipline and still not find something that works well.

It seems like every few days here a new behavior pops up. When I originally posted this it was she was saying NO to me very harshly and repeatedly if she did not like something I was doing (a behavior picked up from a cousin recently).
Now it is any transition, such as going to take a bath, which has resulted in a meltdown each night now, changing the diaper, or anything requiring that she do something different than what she is presently doing. And how did a sweet little one become so demanding now all the time? I also did not know that two year olds must raise their voices several decibels to think they will be heard. And goodness, every time even something little happens, there is no crying, but wailing and yellling. Oy.

Mom to human and furry--I hope your destination was better than the train ride--that must have been long.

Melissa--I'll probably be enlisting your help!

Jalepeno--it's true I have finally resorted to time-out as a punishment, which doesn't work anyway for her. I feel I am pretty good at positively reinforcing often. Coming up with creative ways and natural consequences, like standing on the mat until she clears her place--good idea--for me is harder than I would think.

Journey--it's tough!

Biblemom--I also have noticed candy is big here too. She really never had it much, but at Halloween she wouldn't let anyone carry her candy bag for her! And good to know things will get worse first--otherwise I would really feel like things weren't going well. Sometimes knowing what to expect is easier to deal with it.

Diane--the trouble here for us would be that her favorite place is to be with us, pretty much. But thank you for the suggestion.

Pechocha--I did smile when I read yours!

Minibus--thinking of logical consequences is hard sometimes, especially in the moment. I agree that is a great way to discipline.

Well, something new we will try tomorrow--we are really going to put a routine in place before the bath, so that hopefully the transition to the bath will be more pleasant. Then K can earn a book for each thing she does well--getting into the bath, getting out of the bath, cooperating with teeth, lotion, pj's. I decorated some sticks tonight and she can earn one book stick for each of those things and trade them in for one book each before bedtime. She loves books. We'll see!

Thank you so much for support and ideas--and maybe you wouldn't know it from my very long post but we are still having fun these days and I love her so much!!!