Hi MTB -
I agree with Southern Roots on family support, but I also think that sometimes there may be a tinge of fear about the unknown and perhaps jealously. They may be worried about how this reunion could affect thier lives. And jealous of the time you have spent searching and the time you will spend with this person that they do not have a connection with. While I get loads of support from my b. friend, I see it in his eyes sometimes, the worry of someone perhaps taking me from him. It's irrational, but it's like a friend that becomes jealous when you meet another friend and you begin to talk about this person all the time and spending time with them...I'm sure you know what I mean.
I guess what I am trying to say is, to try see it from thier point of view as well. While you do need thier support for what you are going through...your family needs to know that thier place with you and the family unit is secure. You are the mother.
Anyway...my 2 cents.
I have no sage advice to provide on your search - I'm still going through my own. Patience would be the word of the day!
Good luck on your search!
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Originally Posted by MTB
thank you for the help southernroots it has helped alot. I needed to hear some positive words of encouragement. My husband sees me on the comp. everyday and he knows what I'm doing and says nothing. It would be nice if just once he'd ask, so how are things going, any luck,can I give you any suggestions? And my sister and daughter know I do this everyday too and never ask me about it.Yes I've registered with ISRR. Is there a certain type of P.I. I should look for, one that deals only with finding adoptees?
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