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Old 11-03-2008, 04:57 PM
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Originally Posted by SchmennaLeigh
Now, there you go! Express that anger even if it is misdirected at me! Good for you! (I say this in jest. Just amused.)

But seriously. I have continued to push and prod throughout this post, all of you, for reasons. Everything I read here is ABSOLUTELY SCARY. There's a LOT of unhealthy stuff going on in adoption relationships and it NEEDS to change. For you. For the other party opposite you. For our children. For society. For the birth parents, adoptive parents and adoptees who will follow in our footsteps in coming years.

Change starts somewhere. I'm not content to sit by and watch people get caught up in "well, this is good enough" or "it's never going to change."

We can foster change. I have to believe we can. Or it all seems hopeless and pointless.

I'm glad you're amused, and my anger is not misdirected. You do not know my life Jenna, for you to sit behind a computer screen and tell me that I don't do what I should for my child is ignorant.

I've been living adoption for 30 years now, I've been active in reform in my state for ten years, I believe that is six years before your daughter was born. I do my share, don't you dare tell me I don't just because in this relationship I choose to protect myself.

Jenna, you are a smart woman, but you don't know everything there is to know about me, my life, my situations, so please reserve judgement for your own life.
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1-4-2009 Mom and I visit Kiddo despite the bad weather. He really loved the blue mittens I made him and even helped me plan my living room. Apparently Hot Wheels wallpapper is the way to go.
2-16-2009 I got a promotion, that comes with a raise. Mom and Dad are visiting and we're going to Al's for pie to celebrate.
4-27-2009 Dad surprises me with a Lady Ugly Stick (an awesome fishing rod that is pink) and a 2nd Iowa Light Artillery Battery jacket. I'm a lucky girl!
5-30-2009 Kiddo turns five. It is hard to believe he is that old already, it seems like just yesterday he was being born. I was at peace for the first time on his birthday, what a nice feeling.
6-13&14 2009 A cannon live fire in Casper WY. We got third place and I got to see Devil's Tower for the first time, it was pretty awesome.
7-4-2009 Amelia the kitten comes to live with me and Liz. Talk about jealousy, Liz will adjust though.
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