Was researching a bit for a blog later this week and came across a great explanation of rational versus rational anger: (link:
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Quote:
There is a kind of anger that is both normal and rational. If someone is trying to burn your house or hurt your family, the suitable response is to be angry, aggressive and take some appropriate action. Rational anger is the result of someone doing, or threatening to do, something hurtful to you.
Irrational anger, on the other hand, is when you find yourself being very angry when no one is doing anything to you.
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Perhaps that's why we sometimes see our anger as irrational and/or rational when really it is the other one (re: adoption).
Examples or irrational being: birth mother gets pregnant and adoptive mom is angry. The birth mother did nothing TO the adoptive mother BUT the adoptive mother feels worry for the child.
Rational: Visits being canceled, no communication, etc, because those are actively being done to you.