[Mommy2NoneHopefully1]

Thats a big concern for us as well. We will be changing our little boys name. We are making his first name his middle name & giving him a new first name. I think the same thing, with networking sites & such its very obvious its him & your daughters family can find her fast. But from what you said I would wait a few months. Maybe when she settles in a bit more she will FEEL more like the family & will be more open to changing it. I would let it go for a few months & bring it up closer to the finalization. But you said she talks to her sister who talks to bio dad. So, her older sister would know her new name, even after she changes it because I'm sure she is going to tell her sister he new name. Her sister can always tell her dad. If you still feel strongly about it later, & she won't budge, I would insist for her own safety & security. Something so little, as a school newsletter or website printing her name, for a contest or something & they google & find her. Maybe if you drop it for awhile & respect her decision, she will change her mind. But I would think if you push it now she is going to stand firm & refuse, if she thinks its her decision she might make the right one! But thats just my opinion!