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Old 11-03-2008, 09:46 AM
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I, too, don't have any real advice other than to say that this is to be expected. It is hard because no one (her, you, or your other children) function well when they are sleep-deprived. But there are many factors that may be coming together to cause this:

* grief
* overstimulation by all of the new people and experiences so her brain can't turn off and stay off at night
* hyperalertness because of being in new surroundings that she doesn't completely understand
* being used to sleeping with others in the same bed
* being used to there being multiple people sleeping together in the same room

Because there are probably multiple causes there will probably be multiple solutions. A little bit of a lot of things will add up to where she eventually sleeps through:

* some of this will just go away with time + a secure transition to her new home and family
* sleeping in a room with others (if she doesn't already)
* if she is in a room with others try moving the beds closer together -- like putting two twin beds next to each other so each child has there own space but she has the proximity she needs; slowly with time you can move them, inch by inch apart
* limit overstimulation when possible by limiting after-school and weekend activities, trips outside of the home, etc; just like it's advised with infants to keep them at home for a month, try this for 4-6 weeks with your daughter if you haven't already done so; there's plenty at home for her to discover and play with without adding activities outside of the home or errands (school would be the exception if she's already enrolled)

What does she say about it? The great thing with adopting older children is that they can provide some insight into their own behaviors, especially at her age. Ask her what makes her wake up at night, why she can't get back to sleep, and why moving around at night helps.

Best wishes.
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