[thanksgivingmom]

I can NOT speak up for myself in adoption land when it comes to rational anger. I get frustrated when it takes nearly a month to hear back from Cupcake's Mom. I *think* that's fair and rational. But I don't bring it up to her because I don't want to rock the boat - not to mention that I've been told (like Tara said) over and over and over again, until a little part of me believes that at least maybe it's true, that I should be grateful for whatever morsel she gives me, and not ask for more.

In non adoption land, I think that I sometimes have a much easier time speaking up - why? Because there's not something as HUGE at stake. I know if I'm angry (for good reason) at my boss, I can confront her in a professional manner and discuss the problem - with a decent amount of confidence I won't lose my job. When my roommate leaves his dishes everywhere I tell him that it bugs me and explain the situation and he fixes it - but I'm never afraid he'll be offended and move out.

But with D? She gets mad and she takes away what feels like my everything!

So would I rather risk that and discuss my anger with D? Or just deal with my own anger?

I'll choose the latter. Every time.