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Originally Posted by SchmennaLeigh
True, to a point.
When do we lose responsibility for our own well-being and healing, though? Where is that line? When do we get to say, "Well, I'll just continue to be silently angry until it explodes because x, y and z people told me to keep quiet about it." When do we have to step up and say, "I'm worth it. I want to heal. This needs changed/discussed/etc."
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Good question, however one that is so individual. Some people never get to that point in their lives where they stand up and others get there relatively quickly. For me it depends on the situation and the person involved. With my dad it took me 26 years to stand up to him and tell him my true feelings. But with someone else I might be more quick to stand up. In regards to the aparents/adoption relationship things would have to be pretty bad for me to stand up. It's that whole "unbalanced power" thing that even after 9 years of a relatively good relationship gets me.