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Likewise, I am so very sorry for your double loss.
I also recommend that you contact your bmom's husband through either a letter or phone call. If he is not as responsive as you would like, I would think that you can find other family members of your bmom who can provide you stories and pictures and maybe even videos.
Please try not to feel guilty that you didn't search for her earlier. At age 24, you actually searched earlier than many of us. I too waited to sign up for an adoption registry because I was busy getting married and having kids; in my case I was in my early 30's. (I eventually learned that my bmom died when I was still a child.)
I don't know your religious/spiritual leanings, but my belief system tells me that my bmom is with me in spirit; she is at my side guiding me through life. However, I know it still hurts to have never known her in person. No rationalization will take away the pain you feel. It is so sad that you have lost both your moms.
Your bmom has already shown you her loving nature by registering to find you. Hopefully you will find some relatives from her side who will be happy to know you and tell you all about your bmom.
Take care.
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