[jlallinson]

I gave my daughter up for adoption 18 years ago. Social services told me that I would be able to start contact when she was 18 years old (her parents were also told she could find me at 18). Well, when she turned 18 I was rudely turned away or completely ignored. My daughter was searching for me and she was completely turned away too. She was told "it is not worth it" and "you won't like what you find". I cannot believe that anyone from the church could be so judgemental and crude. I am having a hard time getting past it. I consider myself a stalwart member. I don't think it is their job to keep families apart. (especially ones with support from all sides). How can people be so hurtful. My adopted daughter drove 3 hours by herself to the office she was adopted out of just to find some information. They completely turned her away. Anyway we found each other on our own and our reunion has been amazing. We have a large "extended family" as her parents put it. Social services needs to know that reunion can be good. It has helped heal so many wounds and close so many gaps. We are truly going to have a wonderful Thanksgiving this year!