I typically post over on foster care and adoption, but since our DD's adoption was finalized in September, I "allowed" my self in
We now have DD's half brother with us as a foster situation, and I was so excited to have a newborn in the house that I thought would stay with us forever, (which may still be the case-fingers crossed) but his arrival was chaotic, and my adjustment to 2 kids along with his startling cry that sounds like a cat choking/dying
was enough to cause a chasm between he and I. I started to resent him from keeping me from my beautiful, just adopted 17 month old, who I would, as someone mentioned earlier, "lay down and die for." I also just didn't seem to really "care" for him either, as much as respond to his basic needs.
He's only 7 weeks old now, but I feel like we're moving forward, and really getting to know each other better. I'm so glad to know I'm not the only one, foster or adoptive, that didn't immediately bond.
It seems like such a simple thing, but it really felt like a horrible secret...
those of you in the "fake it till you make it" camp, do you tell anyone your misgivings, or are you "faking" it all the way around?
Good luck to all, we can only grow and learn from these experiences!