[Celesyee]

In addition to his 2hour commute roundtrip everyday, DH works about 90hrs a week with a combination of him working at the office, off island, and at home, but even when he's working from home...he's not here if you KWIM. We see him for an hour during dinner and maybe one breakfast on the weekends.

We talked about him changing companies where it wouldn't be so demanding (though he'd still have to work some weekends and evenings), but it would mean taking a HUGE pay cut. A HUGE pay cut would mean I would have to return to work and Devin to a sitter. As a social worker, my income would probably barely cover sitter fees. Given the economy's current situation, DH decided to stay with his job as he has a great salary, benefits, and job security.

Sometimes we have to do what we need to do. Maybe if DH decides to follow though you and him can explain it to DD in a way she can understand. And then maybe follow up with regular contact through webcam. Or send special post cards and letters to each other. Or when he will be around, it should only be FUN and no errand-running.

Good luck in your decision.