I'm no attachment specialist. But I do know that "bonding" was different with each of my kids. I felt an instant attachment to my middle child (even though he was asleep!). With my DD it took months (of course now she's the heartbeat of my life!). I don't think I "attached" to my bio son in the womb like some people say they do. When I first saw him I thought he looked weird (unfamiliar I suppose because he looked nothing like my other kids). But I was pretty well hooked soon after that. On the other hand, DH was really connected with our DD from the getgo. And it took him months to really feel the bond with our bio son.
It's fascinating to me how human relationships work. I actually think my middle son and I are most alike in personality and he's the one I felt the instant connection to. My daughter and I are most dissimilar and it took me longer to connect with her. But then some of the most meaningful and long lasting relationships of my life have been with people I didn't particularly get along with at first (including my DH and a good friend I've had for 20 years). Go figure!!
Best of luck!! 
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DD: Born 4/06, Fost/Adopt, Home at 2 days old, Finalized at 17 months old
DS1: Born 5/07, Fost/Adopt, Bio Brother of DD, Home at 13 days old, Finalized at 9 months old
DS2: Born 9/07, Bio
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