I believe in some aspects of attatchment parenting. Not everything - I'm not saying it's for everyone either!! But I FIRMLY believe in holding babies - like constantly when possible. I also think it's a good idea to limit other people's contact especially in regards to meeting the needs of the baby (ESPECIALLY early on)
I also think if you are having troubles - fake it til you make it!! It takes time to bond - and that's ok! If you are really concerned, perhaps seek councelling? But it sounds to me like this is more about pressure you are putting on yourself than a lack of care or concern for you babe
Take it easy on yourself!!!