Dear "Bumblebee",
I so love your screen name! I think I said this before but it reminds me of a field full of sunflowers which is a nice thought in the midst of the onset of winter up here!
Anyhoo...
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I don't understand why she didn't just have an abortion.
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Abortion and adoption don't have any connection to each other IMO. They are two different choices. The one thing that has always shocked me in here (and not meant as a judgement of ya Bumblebee - honest) but it's always rattled me how birthmothers are instantly merged with the abortion issue. Young unmarried, poor. Somehow it feels to me as if people think we are the only set of women who ever even had a thought about abortion. Not so. There are plenty of married women and single well-to-do women who've had that same thought and have acted on it. Especially I would bet back in the late 60's and early 70's when large families were still common in this country.
But that's just a personal observation.
As for why your birthmother may not want to have contact. I can't understand that at all, but that's just me.
I will say this though. It's very possible she was told back then that you would have no desire to find her and that she should just "get on with her life" and "forget about you". That was a common theme.
There could be other reasons; none of them are valid IMO. Whether she wants to have anything to do with you or not, whether she wanted to be a mother or not, in this day and age, in the now, she at least owes you some form of contact and/or explanation as to why she relinquished her rights to you.
But again, that's just my humble opinion.
I hope you find some peace with this.
Many hugs your way!