[manni28]

But let's just say, when I learned I was adopted I didn't trust anyone. I felt lied to. I felt all weird inside at the idea of telling my parents I love you. So, I got into an alternative lifestyle that included staying Stoned all the time because I didn't want to deal with MY reality. Now.... You can say that this post is unfair but I am living proof of the truth in this post.

Why would you not trust anyone? Did your aparents not tell you, you were adopted until you were older?

How old is the research? Are you kidding me??? We are just now coming out in droves. Some of the research goes back to the early 1900's, and and as recent as earlier this year. Google

I would like to see that research- I also wonder if they include other factors such as the genetic disposition of the subjects?

My adoption was "never in my face", which, is for me, one of the problems. "Ssshhh...let's not talk about it" . I, too, was my parent's child. But I was ALSO someone else's child, and to deny that loss, that fact, to me, is very unhealthy. Is it my parent's fault? No. They did what they were told. They followed society's directions
Im not blaming anyone for anything. I detest the blame game. If there's an issue, I do my best to fix that issue, and have taught my daughters the same.

As far as "looking within"??? Why do you think people post here???? Why do some people go to therapy? It's BECAUSE they are looking within.

Not to dismiss your feelings but why would you feel the way you do? Your aparents were doing the best they could; even you acknowledge that. Also, we (as adoptees) don’t know what kind of life we would have if we were raised by our bparents. For a lot of us, we wouldn’t have the opportunities we have today. I truly believe unless the aparents were/are abusive, many of us adoptees are very fortunate to be blessed with good parents and loving family members. Not every child adopted or bio is blessed with good parents.

Again, I wish you the best!

-Manni