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[quote=manni28]
Well then I am one of the "lucky ones". In regards to the research, how old is the data? Many adoptees that I know are very stable and positive people. They, like me, see adoption as ONE component of their life, not their whole life. I also think SOME (not all adoptees) that suffer from low self-esteem do so because adoption was always in their face. Since I was a child I knew I was adopted, however, my parents didn't "drill" it to me all the time. I knew I was adopted but I was MY parent’s child plain and simple. Not to be harsh, but a lot of times it's easier to blame someone else or something else, instead of looking within.
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How old is the research? Are you kidding me??? We are just now coming out in droves. Some of the research goes back to the early 1900's, and and as recent as earlier this year. Google it.
My adoption was "never in my face", which, is for me, one of the problems. "Ssshhh...let's not talk about it" . I, too, was my parent's child. But I was ALSO someone else's child, and to deny that loss, that fact, to me, is very unhealthy. Is it my parent's fault? No. They did what they were told. They followed society's directions.
Im not blaming anyone for anything. I detest the blame game. If there's an issue, I do my best to fix that issue, and have taught my daughters the same.
As far as "looking within"??? Why do you think people post here???? Why do some people go to therapy? It's BECAUSE they are looking within.
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