[lacymarie]

You know what. I think that us adoptees try to fight the truth of the matter. Since we all know that the minority is subordinate to the majority in these matters, this does not mean that it applies to EVERYONE. But for the most part, many if not most adoptees who may have that family history of drinking or drugging may just be more susceptible because of their feelings, whatever they may be, stemming from their adoption. I am one of those people. My oldest bsister is one of those people. My estranged bsister is one of those people. So, people, lets not get all defensive at the facts. Lets get real. A person who feels abandoned or suffer from some sort of separation anxiety may use these substances to get away from reality, whether adopted or not. And because being adopted causes some of these feelings, I don't think that this is an unfair post at all. The first step towards healing anything is acceptance's. I am going to start a whole other post based on this one, because I really get frustrated when I see adoptees who try to eliminate the idea that being adopted can cause some sort of....well... I don't want to say the word because I don't want to offend anyone. But let's just say, when I learned I was adopted I didn't trust anyone. I felt lied to. I felt all weird inside at the idea of telling my parents I love you. So, I got into an alternative lifestyle that included staying Stoned all the time because I didn't want to deal with MY reality. Now.... You can say that this post is unfair but I am living proof of the truth in this post.