[manni28]

There have been countless studies which show adoptees suffer from abandonment issues and low self esteem. In my opinion, to ignore those studies, is no different than ignoring genetic predispositions to alchoholism, diabetes, depression or cancer.

They are all "conditions", except the latter are in our genes. Self esteem and abandonment issues stem from the fact we were adopted.

Now, how we deal with those self esteem and abandonment issues, if we are indeed part of the majority of adoptees, is key. Do we fall into the "blame game" and have a pity party, or do we try to heal?

If we are also predisposed to alcoholism and or depression, the adoption issues can make those issues worse.

While I respect your opinion on adoption not being a trigger for low self esteem or abandonment issues (maybe you are one of the rare ones who missed this boat, lol) I disagree. I cannot dispute studies and other noted research.

Well then I am one of the "lucky ones". In regards to the research, how old is the data? Many adoptees that I know are very stable and positive people. They, like me, see adoption as ONE component of their life, not their whole life. I also think SOME (not all adoptees) that suffer from low self-esteem do so because adoption was always in their face. Since I was a child I knew I was adopted, however, my parents didn't "drill" it to me all the time. I knew I was adopted but I was MY parent’s child plain and simple. Not to be harsh, but a lot of times it's easier to blame someone else or something else, instead of looking within.


I wish you the best!

Manni