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Originally Posted by Indiaadoptee
I think it is better for other people, other governments to give money to the child’s first parents so they can afford to keep their child, instead of having to make the gut wrenching choice to drop them off at an orphanage. I say overseas adoption should be the last, absolute last choice of adoption from prospective parents.
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But do you know there are millions in India that are NOT abandoned because of "poverty" issues ? Yes ,the primary reason is poverty. But being born a "girl" is a reason enough for some to abandon their child. Being an Indian an often reading news reports and even speaking to a few illeterate people and many educated people who refuse to raise "another" girl child if they end up after attempting for that so called wonderfull most coveted gender "boy"!! In my cousins case i believe she was born to a middle class educated family with "too many girls". Their obessesion with a boy child made them give her up and i can lay a bet they must have made more attempts to try for a "boy" after abandoning my cousin who was adopted later in the hospital. Money would have not solved their problem. Only a male child would.
Do you know sex determination in India during pregnancy is banned because Indians in general are obsessed with a boy child. Its a few of those obsessed people irrespective of their financial status who can abandon their baby girl. Money would not work!!
Also do you know another cause of abandonement in India is child out of wedlock?
Pre-marital sex is considered so taboo that a girl can expect to loose her life if not just her status if it was disovered she has had pre-marital sex let alone had a child out of wedlock. A girl would rather die than acknowledge the shame this would bring to her and most importantly her family.
Also do you know a woman in India is often so dependant (not necessarily financially) on a man that if a woman in a new relationship abandons her child from her first marriage/relationship ,it is not unheard of.
I am adding the above reasons ONLY because you gave poverty as the only reasons why children in India are abandoned.
Sad but true money was not the cause why these childrens lost their family.
My question would an adoptee still want a realationship with the birth parents that abandoned them due to their "gender"?
Would an adoptee consider that if born out of wedlock their birth mothers life and all relationships would be at risk if a connection was ever made?