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Originally Posted by manni28
As an adoptee I can't agree with your “adoption is the 'core" reason philosophy. For many people, addiction is a genetic disposition. To blame adoption on: low self esteem and feelings of abandonment doesn’t cut it with me. Like you said, and I agree, genetic dispositions plays a huge role in addiction and personalities types.
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There have been countless studies which show adoptees suffer from abandonment issues and low self esteem. In my opinion, to ignore those studies, is no different than ignoring genetic predispositions to alchoholism, diabetes, depression or cancer.
They are all "conditions", except the latter are in our genes. Self esteem and abandonment issues stem from the fact we were adopted.
Now, how we deal with those self esteem and abandonment issues, if we are indeed part of the majority of adoptees, is key. Do we fall into the "blame game" and have a pity party, or do we try to heal?
If we are also predisposed to alcoholism and or depression, the adoption issues can make those issues worse.
While I respect your opinion on adoption not being a trigger for low self esteem or abandonment issues (maybe you are one of the rare ones who missed this boat, lol) I disagree. I cannot dispute studies and other noted research.
Linda