Sorry guys for taking SO LONG for responding! School stuff started piling on.….
So, account4net, here’s my super delayed responses to your other questions:
Is it easier for the adoptee to be of some age at the time of adoption?
Umm…I don’t know. “easier” is an iffy word to use. I’d rather be adopted as a young child, old enough to remember things from my past. Being an infant when adopted, waiting decades later to remember your past is NO fun at all. If I was somewhat older, and had any memory at all, there would be that tiny shred of security and of hope. I’d give anything to remember sounds, or faces, or words, places, even if they were super foggy in my memory.
Is it better for a separated child to be raised by a family or is it better off in an orphanage?
Isn’t that the million dollar question. So many non-adoptees like to trick me with this one. I’ll answer the question this time by saying, I think it is better for other people, other governments to give money to the child’s first parents so they can afford to keep their child, instead of having to make the gut wrenching choice to drop them off at an orphanage. I say overseas adoption should be the last, absolute last choice of adoption from prospective parents.
The money shouldn’t be used to take the child OUT of their real country, AWAY from their real family. It should be used to be given to the poor family to keep the child IN their real country, WITH their real family.
but who am i kidding. who in the adoption world, and in the world in general,
who wants to hear that? no one...except the adoptee.
Is it easier for the adoptee if it is adopted from an orphanage where adoption is not the cause of separation from birth family?
Huh? Can you rephrase that please. ☺
"Is it easier to be adopted in the same nationality?"
Again, the “easier” word. I don’t speak for all adoptees, but I’d rather not be adopted into the same nationality. Because in addition to juggling being adopted, it would rarely come up ever because everyone would look somewhat similar. If the parents wanted to keep the adoption a secret, it’d just rub more salt into the wound. It could also be cruel, and to me, a sneaky move on the prospective aparents to not have to deal with people asking 24/7 if you’re kid was adopted, or dealing with race issues. I’d think it be more pressure for the adoptee. On the other hand, I guess, there could be positives to it. Can’t think of any right now.
By the way, Dpen6, you ROCK!!
