[dalene]

Thanks to all who have responded. I feel great just knowing that I'm not alone in my thinking and that I have every "right" to be concerned by this. I'm hoping to have this conversation with my friend tomorrow and see where it goes...I feel that this one needs to take place in person, so as much as I wanted to call her up today and get it over with, I refrained until I can see her tomorrow. I'll let you all know how it goes. The more I think about it, the more irritated I get by how little regard she gave to my feelings and how little respect for us and our child, not to mention all of humanity. I can't fathom how anyone could think that the comments she made are okay. These comments would never have been "okay" to me but are even less hurtful now. Dh and I just want to provide a positive environment for our child to grow up in, knowing that she is going to face comments like this at some point--but not from our family and friends who we choose to associate with!