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I would leave it to him to decide how to handle his mom, but can he talk with her and reassure her that you will not replace her? Or explain to her that he is a grown man and has a right to form relationships with anyone he chooses?
What if he were to arrange for the two of you to meet? Maybe by getting to know each other, it would make you feel less threatening to her.
I have been able through my semi-open adoption to send letters to my son's parents, so they have gotten to know me over the years. Maybe this could be another option (assuming your son is OK with it), in that you could send a letter letting them know that you respect their roles as his parents and are not trying to take their place in any way, but just want a chance to get to know the person you brought into the world.
I hope things work out for you.
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