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I have learned from personal experience that kids will act in ways they are allowed to get away with. I am not nearly strict enough on some issues of behavior, but with others, I am very strict. The issues with which I have zero tolerance have all but disappeared from our family dynamic, the ones I let slide - usually because I'm too tired or otherwise distratced to deal with - continue. Sometimes it's tough to run a tight ship, but the payoff comes when they are older and big enough to do damage, but don't because they've learned better. Children have to be trained; they don't come into this world knowing how to appropriately interact. The hand-holding facing option that Angelkisses mentioned is one of our tools. I have 2 boys, so they REALLY hate it. We do timeouts and priviledge losses, also. I highly recommend the book "1, 2, 3 ... Magic." DS2's behavior therapist recommended it to us and I was floored at how quickly it actually worked. We have VERY FEW sibling behavior issues now and life is HEAVENLY. Good luck.
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