[lucyjoy]

Does it sting? Yes, but I think it would sting even if the child were lovingly placed for adoption. I'm human-I want to be the mama they want.

However, I do understand why they want to know their bfamilies and I try very hard to be careful not to make MY issue with it, their issue. I give them honest information and my kids(now adults) and I have very open conversations about their other family. One son recently asked me what to do about having two mom's at his wedding. When they talk to me about it, it does make it sting less.

I only have one child who is in deep denial about his former abuse. The sons who have chosen to reconnect with their bfamilies did so with forgiving hearts.

So, does the sting go away, no, but it is okay for my sons to have 2 moms and lots of family.