I can definitely see how some people would prefer closed adoptions. It can be painful and/or intrusive to have other adults that heavily involved in your life. I think that the kids are actually the ones who worry about it the least, since they have the benefit of not knowing that having an extra mom and dad is weird. Heck, i wish id had a spare set of parents growing up
i would've made out like a bandit on birthdays and at christmas.