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I've tried the DNA and the medical history route, it doesn't go any where. They just use, the "I'm too old to be bothered with this." thing! But thanks, Dickons for the suggestion, I enjoy your posts and replies very much. As well as bakerjw, I gain much needed insight from your replies too. You have helped me out on more than you know. thank you.
MamaS - I also thought about contacting their Pastor. They have that avenue close up as well. "Adad" is "best friends" with the Pastor. Was a deacon for more than 15 years, and a staunch financial supporter for more than 35 years. Not the person the Pastor of a small congregation is going to confront. Even if he did, they have a belief that goes like this, "We will agree to disagree." And that settles it all for them.
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Whoever won't agree that they have a right to their privacy, that is whomever's problem, not thiers, and that is the way it is. In other words, if they can justify it that their intentions were and are good, then they owe no man anything else at all. That is kind of how they are in a nutshell. I appreciate your concern and thoughtful reply. I sure wish it were a church that had some hope of really being a truthful loving one, but not so. ANyone that would push this issue with them, they would walk away from anyway. They do what they want to do, then pull Bible verses out and make them fit what their situation is, not the other way around.
I am glad that others can see this for what it is. It helps me to see it for what it is, and while it's not what I want to know, it is the truth and I will continue in it regardless of who else will or will not. All of this is sinking in for me, and it's a been a whirlwind of emotions for a long, long time.
I have left htem with my phonse number, my DH's phone number and they have my DD's phone number also. He calls and leaves strange voice mails on mine every so often. She, "amom" hasn't bothered to get on the phone in over a year's time! I really feel the love!
thanks for your replies so far... so very needed!!!
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