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I was also adopted at 12 by a step-parent adoption. I hadn't seen my biological father since I was 7. When I was 19 and went looking for my biological father, my mother threw a fit and was not supportive. She tried to make me feel guilty, when I was the innocent person in the whole thing. I found my biological father, whom I had placed on an imaginary pedastle my whole childhood. When I found him, I saw that he was a self-centered, selfish individual who cares for only himself. Seeing it with my own eyes dissolved that pedastle and gave me more appreciation for my adoptive father. Had I not found him, he'd probably still be up on that throne where he didn't deserve to be. So I wont worry if my adopted child wants to search. Take it from me, it will probably make them love you all the more and had my mom supported me it would have been easier.
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