I think the DCF working needs to make it clear to the pbmom that they will take the baby away from her. This is a huge issue we have with WIC and all other programs, (I am not saying all pbmoms do this) but it has been my experience working with teen moms (as a DCF worker) that they work the system and work it good! It is such a shame because in my case we couldn't talk about adoption with clients, we just removed and placed in foster care so I guess we avoided the drama that you are dealing with, but we did have higher child abuse rates, that my department was trying to cut back on, because many kept the babies just to get all the free things from the state like housing and WIC and Cash etc. We need change, we need reform, and we need it fast. Because, how I see it the people who really need WIC, reduced housing and cash help (those with pregnancy, jobs etc,) cannot get it because of those who milk the system! That is one of the reasons why I am opening my nonprofit, my focus is teens, but I am also helping the single moms who have jobs, schooling, baby and cannot get anything because they make too much. I do wish you luck, and your baby will find you! When you look back, adoption was formed to find a home for a baby that needed parents. fostercare was formed to help feed children whose parents had lost jobs and couldn't care for them, today so much has changed and it is so sad. We need to really take a good hard look at what we have all done and what we can do to fix this huge mess
