[kakuehl]

Please recognize, first of all, that many of us have stood where you stand. Our stories are all a little different of course, but in essence we (the bparents) all have relinquished a child (some of us more than one.) You are not alone. We can not physically be there with you, but we are here to support each other. It has been 36 years since I placed my firstborn, and we have been in reunion for three years, but the sorrow never goes away. I am mostly at peace and I have had a good, productive life, but giving birth to him and placing him for adoption has definitely changed my life in many ways. (And yes, it was my choice!)

Continue to live one day at a time as much as you can. Worrying is totally unproductive (slightly incorrect, I guess, it does produce stress.) Today is all we really have to live through. And remember, we are here.