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Oh Brandy!
What can you do? I believe you live by example. First, your daughter knows YOU. She knows that you are good woman and not a whore. If anything she knows as does her father that you not only are you worthy of children but that her life would have been very different with you.
Your intelligence, success and stability are a threat to this man. Men have been calling women whores and worse since the beginning of time. It’s his way of keeping you in your place; his way of trying to feel superior to you. Perhaps it is his way of trying to hold on to his daughter. Teen years are difficult during the best of times. Name calling is not a way to keep a young woman from making the decision to have sex. If fact, I’d venture to say that the not-s-subtle attack on her self esteem would have the opposite effect. Ultimately an attack on you is an attack on her.
So, what can you do? Continue to be there when she’s ready. Keep your journal. Be prepared for the day when she comes back. She will. You are too much a part, a good part, of her life for her to keep an emotional distance forever.
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Paige
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