[RavenSong]

Oh, Brandy, I am so sorry this is happening to you and M. It is soooo not fair, to say the least. Divorce seems to bring out the worst in some people, and it sounds like M's dad is one of those people.

I'm also wondering if it's possible that M is actually angry deep inside that you pulled back this year. Is that a possibility? I know her amom has some severe problems, and I bet that M felt safe last year when the two of them were living in your home. Could she be angry that she's no longer with you?

I remember when I was a child, I got really angry with my father for a long time. This was because when my parents got divorced, he left me there with my mother, who had some severe psychological problems. Although I knew in my head that the court had given my mom full custody, I still blamed my dad for leaving me with her. Does that make any sense?

Another thing I just thought about... When a kid's parents are going through a divorce, there is an awful lot of anger and confusion inside the child. M may feel safer by being angry with you instead of her parents. Just a thought...