[DeNaJa]

Ha ha ha!!!! That is priceless! My daughter is multi-racial (Cau, AA, & NA)...she looks like a darker version of her birth mom...unknown BF as it was unconsentual. Anyway, when she was a baby, everyone said she looked like her daddy...my husband...which must be because I am gastly pale w/ very straight hair. Once a woman said, "she looks just like you"...I about choked. (it was a 1st to have anyone say we looked even remotely alike) She looks nothing like me! LOL!!!! But I thanked her warmly. I get strange questions...once a woman who found out our daughter was adopted, marched up & asked, "so was she a drug baby? was her mom on drugs?" Uh, no. Also, since my daughter's BF is unknown due to a situation of rape, I was questioned about her genetics. She is special needs & we were sent to various specialists who ran a battery of tests, including 2 different sets of genetic tests. We have info on her birth mom & medical info of her pregnancy & delivery. Now, specialists have determined my daughter has medical issues due to an attempted abortion at 20 wks where a doctor began the dilation process to perform a D&E...all genetic tests were negative...one doc even said to ME with HER present..."It isn't a problem that they were doing a 2nd trimester abortion. It is that they didn't complete it. Stunned & insulted beyond comprehension, I replied, "Well, I'd rather she be delayed than dead." And we left...never went back. Anyway, the person who was overly concerned about the details of her genetic paternity went on to say "I'm a big believer in genetics. My ex-wife & I are of good stock & our kids are of good stock. My grandkids have good genes." And what...my kid DOESN'T have "good genes"? Thanks, Hitler. I thought we were a little farther past that eugenics garbage. This is the same mentality that caised my daughter's birth mom to consent to the abortion. The clinic counselors told her "no one will want a bi-racial rapist's baby"...that because the baby is 1)bi-racial & 2)has a gentic link to a rapist, then no one will want it...as if this baby will be born & will be a mini-rapist! Sigh. Yeah, I'm sure NURTURE has nothing to do with it. Sad.