[LAJoy2008]

Ugh! I know what you mean. My best friend used to tell me to keep trying, that her husband was declared unable to father a child and that they have had 3 beautiful, healthy boys. Good for them. But after 5 years of trying (the old fashioned way) & 1 round of IVF (with ICSI-when you really need science b/c without it there would be no fighting chance) we decided to adopt. Now it's not so much that they ask me why we didn't keep trying, rather they ask all kinds of questions about details of the adoption (independent/open, etc). I am tired of rehashing the details, especially to strangers who really need not know that it was an open adoption and the amount of contact/or not we are going to have with the birth mom. (Because they will certainly have an opinion about that too). Ugh! I need to come up with a quick answer to the adoption question. Or perhaps not even tell anyone that he is adopted anymore. I mean, what difference does it make? He is our son!!!!! And we will love him just the same.

Thanks for letting me vent.