[JustCourtney]

I will have to echo the previous posters, in that the biggest obstacle that I am just now trying to come to terms with is reconciling the person that our son's birth mom is, with who I want her to be.

I have a good friend who is a first mom, and I think that I really projected her and her relationship onto ours. I had envisioned us having a warm friendship, celebrating holidays together (we have the same birthday), and acting like an extended family. All based on my friend, who has worked very hard for 10 years to get to that point in her OA! Pretty much a recipe for disappointment!

During the stress of the last few weeks, I have had to face the reality of our situation, and try to accept it for what it is. No expectations, taking it as it comes, and hoping for a better future. Hasn't exactly left me feeling all warm and fuzzy inside, but it will be a more solid base to build on.