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samonster... you have to take care of yourself ... if you do not believe you can see her when she is born, then don't....
our daughters birthmother chose not to see the baby... she wanted the baby born, and whisked away... into our waiting arms... Actually, we had bonded so much by the time the baby was coming, she invited both my husband and I to be in the delivery room... i even cut the cord!
As a birthmother, my "gut instinct" was to tell her to reconsider... to encourage her to hold the baby... to say her good byes.... but i chose to remove myself and my agenda for what I thought was "best".... and allow her to make her own choices...
i could tell that she was determined to place her daughter for adoption... and that she did not want to risk changing her mind... she just knew she couldn't parent this baby...
and like kathy said... it's okay to cry. as a matter of fact, your situation is very very sad... it is very very difficult... it is super okay to cry... and to be angry.... just let yourself feel all those feelings...
have you looked into any community resources that might be able to assist?
julie
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Mom to FOUR beautiful daughters!!!!
3 bio and our last little princess, adopted!
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