[AudraLeigh]

Hello,

I have been quietly reading this forum for quite some time and have relished all of the wisdom. Thank you to all who share here.

I am a birthmom and am about to meet my BD for the first time...tomorrow! I'm excited, nervous, scared and well, you can imagine.

I have a million questions, but what is most troubling me this morning is this....

My BD is 19. I also have 3 other (raised) children, who are 25, 14 and 12.


My 25 yr old (raised) daughter has made some bad choices in her life and because of where she is in her life, (Partying and very secretive) I am hesitant to give her, or my BD any information that may lead to them uniting. They both know about each other, and my RD knows I have received contact, but nothing more. They actually live fairly close to one another and honestly, I worry that my RD may make a bad connection and/or be a bad influence on my BD.

My other 2 children live with me and will be meeting my BD soon, but I feel a need to protect my BD from my eldest RD. Then of course I feel guilty for that, feeling like my first loyalty should be to my RD, but it is my BD that I am feeling the need to protect.

Any words of wisdom?

Audra