I agree with the others about coming on appearing too strong, meeting with your lawyer and also the registered letter/return receipt requested, but, since they have tried to accuse you of harassment (your sil anyway) I would even take it a step further. I would ask if the lawyer would act as the intermediary so that you aren't directly communicating with the bsibs until they open up the line of communication. If a third party is involved, it would be harder for anyone to accuse you of harassment. Ask the lawyer to include the information in your letter about medical history, etc in her letter to your bsibs and then wait and see what happens. Being both an adoptee and bmom, I can say that is much easier said than done, but I will pray that you can get some sort of an answer to help put your heart at peace.
