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It's a personal decision - as you can see, your MIL has a very defined position against contact. You will find that you'll get the same types of responses here...some are either totally 110% for it or either totally 110% against it.
Each situation is unique - take it slow, like you would any other new friendship. Let it naturally progress (or not, depending on what happens). Passing on a photo is a personal decision. Maybe take some time to get to know them as a family - you might find, the birth grandparents are fantastic people you want to cultivate a relationship (or you might not).
Take baby steps.
You wouldn't give your contact info (or a picture of your child) to someone you just met...you'd want to get to know them...I see nothing wrong with that in brand new open adoptions.
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Brandy
Adopted Adult, Mom & Wife
Mothering From The Sidelines of Open Adoption
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