We didn't think we would have any children, at all. I had a surprise pregnancy which was a true blessing, but also brought health issues for the baby and I. We were told to not do pregnancy again.
So no infertility issues, but difficult decisions along the way.
When our one and only child was 7 we adopted a 2 year old child from the foster care system. We were very careful and specifically said we were not interested in a child with fetal alcohol problems. God gave us a child who, it turned out, had FASD (fetal alcohol spectrum disorder). After that we adopted 3 more children, all either prenatally exposed or born addicted.
I was very scared when we decided to adopt from foster care. I was concerned about all the unknowns, and unknowables. I remember being consumed by fear one day and facing the fact that I could allow fear to rule, or I could consciously make a decision to not be afraid and to follow where God led us, trusting in Him even when the way looked dark or painful. Scary stuff, but our Heavenly Father does care for us and is merciful and loving, always.
God always has a reason when we suffer, so even during the painful process of adopting, and parenting, our special children I remember that pain has a purpose. For me that purpose has been, first and foremost, to learn to trust in the Lord with my WHOLE heart, unreservedly. Secondly, the pain has given me empathy for others in the adoption triad, the caseworkers, and extended family members of the child. I'm also very aware of the children waiting for families and those in foster care. I've also learned to understand my Dh more, as he was a foster child who aged out of the system.
So don't know if you can use that since we didn't really deal with infertility and have to work through that particular issue.
