[dadfor2]

I just cannot imagine parenting a child with such behavior problems, I was drained just reading.

I understand you are drained by reading, but we are parenting a child with these behaviors. I think the majority of folks who have posted here, are parenting children like 'lucas'. there are rescources out there to help the family, but you have to go get them. testing is just that, testing. It doesnt help, may give you a baseline, but that doesnt change the behavior.

you can actually look at old posts from alot of these parents and understand the daily struggles that we face. Some parents here actually have faced more horrific stories then what 'harry' has posted.

the difference is, that we have not given up on our children, we have not just written them off. The child is only 11, the child still can get some help.

For me, It was hard to read the blog because i am now on the other side of a 'damaged child'. HE was very hard, but i have full faith that children can heal. We needed alot of support, we couldnt do it ourselves. We had to accept that.

my kids have a long long way to go. I have two 'Lucas's, but we have come very far also.

from what harry wrote, he and his wife have basically written off lucas and just waiting for him to leave the house. maybe i read it wrong, but thats what i got. He has already plotted out this childs future, and as with any child, he will reach the expectation we place on him.

my 10 yr old cannot read. Do i just accept this? If your child has an issue, any issue, do you just accept it or do you really look at different things to help him. alot of folks on here have done second opinions/ third opinions, even fouth opinions to find out how to help their child.

I just wonder where Harry went.

maybe its me, I know when i first posted a few years ago (cant believe its been that long) I checked my post over and over to see if anyone had answered. I was at my wits end and i needed some ideas on what was wrong with my kids.

i guess thats why i wonder about this whole post and blog. just kinda seemed odd to me