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It's hard to know what you've become when you have a hard time understanding where you started
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Well said! You know as I've read people's posts in this forum, I've picked up on their childhoods. All of them involve some kind of pain; that's how it seems to me anyhow.
Maybe the circumstances around each life story are slightly different but I've not read where anyone has said, "I had this fabulous life, full of sunshine and delight and one day I got pregnant." I don't read that anywhere. Just little hints; little cracks between the lines of sorrow in the much younger years. I'm not sure adoption is an end result of that of course. But if it is then you're right. None of us can deny our past if we want to go forward while at the same time we must go forward and not wallow. Quite the challenge that.
Kathy and Raven You are right. Hindsight is always 20/20. Who would we have been? And what is the point of asking ourselves that anyhow? Asking who we would've been if we'd made a different choice? I can understand why people do that, shoot I'm guilty too, but IMO it's just a way of torturing ourselves. The question is unanswerable. Sort of like, "what came first the chicken or the egg?" I have a feeling if you asked a computer that question, it would blow itself up! LOL! Not that we are automatons of course but you get my drift.
I am learning that it is okay to
grieve the past but to
regret it brings only more regret.