[melissa_bear003]

Originally Posted by Empty_Nest

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I am always taken aback when introductions are made and the parents say, "this is my daughter XX, this is my son XX, and this is my adopted son XX." We never had kids by birth so maybe I'm missing something, but it just seems odd to me to make introductions that way, setting the adopted child apart with the 'adopted' label. That just seems wrong to me.

Parents who brag about having adopted their child, implying it somehow makes the parents somebody special, set my teeth on edge, too. Sometimes it's like they think they should be given kudos for it or something.

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My MIL still to this day introduces my dh as her 'adopted son'. She's caucasian, he's Metis. She will then launch into his adoption story to anyone, anytime, any place. I'm talking cashiers at the grocery store kind of anyone.

Things really came to a head when I was pg with our son. I had 2 children prior to our marriage, so this would be my dh's first bio child. She thanked me for 'finally making C a REAL Dad!' I lost it. Dh called her back and lost it too...pointing out that he'd been Dad from our wedding day, and that if genetics was that important to her, she wasn't actually Mom or Gma to anyone.

Interesting to note, that as much as she'll intro dh as her adoptive son, or try to intro the older children as 'Melissa's ds/dd' (which my dh put a stop to) she's never made that distinction with the littles...they're her grandchildren, not 'my adopted son's children'...I wonder if its because they don't look like dh in colouring.