[EZ2Luv]

LMNGambino,

After reading your posts your Bmom sound just like my own bmom. The only thing difference is that I knew my bmom all my life just had no idea she was my bmom. I also gre up knowing her subsequent children(my half sibs) only as my cousins. Sadly she went her grave without the courtesy of ever telling me or her children. To me this is VERY selfish of them. I know she would have definately gotten an abortion if she was able to because she had said many times how she wished abortion was legal years ago cause she would have gotten one "if" she ever got pregnant out of wedlock but because she was a "good girl" that never happened. I guess my bmom believed her own lies and chose to live in a fantasy. You must understand that these type of women are selfish, only think of themselves and make it all about THEM.
This on the contrary IS all about you! As adoptees we are the victims of the choices adults made. It is our RIGHT to know who we are and who shares our DNA.
Please do what you need to do now and if that means contacting your bsibs with out you bmom permission or approval.
You are an adult and do not need permission to do what you need to do for your own peace of mind.
Your bmom is afraid of having to ownup to her past decisions. This is nOT your problem. You have given this woman ample time to take responsibilty and own up to reality.

What happened in my situation was when I did find my bfamily bmom had been dead for a few years. Because she never told her children about me, when I did tell them who I was I was met with hostility and rejection and basically called a liar.

The thing is I waited almost 3 years after finding bmom's identity to tell them yet they refused to believe me and refused any type of relationship.

Had my bmom been honest with them so much pain would have been spared.
The worse that can happen if you do contact them right now is your bmom might be mad at you because now her raised kids might start asking her questions.

Do yourself a favor and do not continue to enable bmom to continue this lie. You owe it to yourself to possibly have a great relationship with your siblings. IMO your bmom bmom is being selfish and only thinking of herself.
She is also robbing her raised shildren of knowing you.
This is wrong on so many levels.
You have bene more than patient in waiting foe your bmom to come clean.
If I seem judgemental it is only because I have lived through the negative repercussions of lies and deciet of a selfish bmom who refused to keep me a secret.

EZ