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Originally Posted by jren
Wow, I'm confused as an adult - can't imagine how your DD is dealing with all of this! It's sad that K can't have a relationship with J as her birthmom (and call her that), and also with her bio siblings without J and J's mom trying to turn it into something more b/c now K loses out of being part of the extended family as well. Sorry you're dealing with all of this - don't have any suggestions short of just having you reassure K of her importance in your life as your daughter.
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What I was thinking too. You're not asking for advice and opinions on what's already been decided inside of the family, you're wanting to know how to go forward with it all...but it all goes back to your original plan of how to address/name each person. Tough situation and I truly feel for you all eqaully, you each have feelings about it all. wow.
I can't help but thnking to myself that it's a shame that therapsits went and mucked things up for you all, that there really didn't need to be that other element placed into your lives when there wasn't a need or issue. You guys have a story, it's not a simple one, but it probably didn't need to go to that place. Grandparent adoption is pretty common, I wonder why they took a pretty common idea and turned it into a struggle for you all. It almost makes it looks as if something wrong
did happen, with the advised lying and all. The truth is what it is, it might be messy but it's easier to remember and never get wrong...the lies are always harder to keep straight. I question those therapists and wish only the best for your family.