[terrirose9]

I kind of feel where you are at. My birthmom had different reasons for dealying information. I met my birthmom when I was 15 3/4. My a-folks were NOT happy about it to say the least! But still allowed a reunion "to shut me up" as my a-dad put it. I had wanted to meet her for sometime. I knew I had a decission to make going into my 3 week stay with my b-mom and 4 1/2 sibs (all girls). I had been told this was it. After my return, no contact till I was 18 and no longer lived with them. I am assuming they had talked and changed their mind during my visit. When I returned I was confronted with "are you going back" Which was NOT an option when I left. Long story short. They after unknow conversations between them. A-mom and a-dad. Thy asked my b-mom of she wanted me back. I went to live with her and my sisters and neverregreted it once. My youngest sister was just 5 and really doesn't remember me not being there. Now why I started this. Sorry went off on a tangent. Since I was 15 3/4 my b-mom wouldn't give me enough info about my b-dad to find him till I was 18 and older. It was a good idea with all that happened from 15 3/4 till 18. I actualy didn't press for the info till I was 19. I had a boyfriend. But it is your right and they are adults as are you. Good luck with it all.