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The thing that I noticed almost immediately after going through a pregnancy and placing a child for adoption was that it matured me. I know that sounds goofy, but I was very immature prior to experiencing that, and I felt very strongly that I went from being a child to being a grown woman. I think it was the first real adult decision I had to make, so that would explain why I felt that way.
I think it did make me stronger in many ways, having to face other people's judgements, having to go to work and still hold my head high depsite being gossiped about, and having to make a decision on my own and follow through with it. It is not an easy decision, by any means, and I don't see how one could make that decision without some kind of incredible strength.
As far as being a better person, no, I've never felt I was better for making the decision to place a child as opposed to exercising any of my other options. Some people did try to put me on a pedestal for it, but I never felt I was better or more noble or something because I made this great "sacrifice."
Tolerant??? I've NEVER been a very tolerant person, and the older I get, the more pronounced this has become! I don't suffer fools gladly. Never have. I wish I could be more tolerant, honestly, but it's just not my strong suit and adoption certainly didn't bring this trait out in me.
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