You have the patience of a saint! I think you should contact them too. They may actually help your bmom heal and get to a better place. Who knows, it may help your relationship with her. I'm guessing. I am very new at this reunion stuff.
I found my bmom 2 months ago, went great for about 3 weeks with emailing back and forth and then she said she didn't want to communicate. My 1/2 brother and sister have "known about me for years". I really, really want to reach out to them now. I don't want to wait for her.
I don't think we should have to. Everyone is grown adults. I really hate that some adoptees have to sit and suffer while some bmoms deal with their issues.
Let us know what happens! If you do it, I may do it too!
