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When you come from a background where you didn't get good nutrition, enough rest, may not have had a firm and loving attachment, were exposed to drugs, etc, etc, you aren't exactly starting on level ground, healthwise.
And they do get sick from new exposures to germs as well as from stress.
5 or 6 months seems like a long time to all of us, but the kids are living with stress every day. They know this situation isn't permanent and that causes stress. They see their families and that causes stress. They learn to love us and still love their bio families, and that causes emotional conflict which causes stress. They're often dealing with really big stuff in therapy, and that causes stress. Even happy feelings cause stress because of the guilt they may be experiencing for feeling happy.
The bottom line is that our kids are going to process their stress and that will include being sick. Our diagnostician calls it somatic events--tummy aches, headaches, vomitting, exhaustion--with no known physical cause.
Vitamins, healthy food, and medicine helps, for sure. But so do rocking, cuddling, and talking about feelings sometimes.
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